5 Ways I Practice Self Love

I  have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival. – Audre Lorde

I have been preaching about self love the last couple of days in my yoga classes, which has moved me to write this post. Often times, I mention self love and self care and receive some eye rolling and laughs from people. This breaks my heart! There is some terrible message out there telling people that self care is silly or self improvement is for losers. This cannot be further from the truth! Media and society fill the world with lies, claiming “once you have a better body, you will love yourself and be happy” or “with this shiny new car, you will feel confident” or “once you find the one who ‘completes’ you, you will be happy”. These are LIES! Happiness is found when we are able to find it within ourselves and acts of self love will help you get there.

The other big lie we hear about self love is that it is selfish or narcissistic. I’m pretty tired of hearing those two wor8e00fbb61eb51394a66cab05baa7a45ads being used so casually. Being able to take care of ourselves will help us take care of others. It is about replenishing our own resources so we can continue to share, or else we will deplete ourselves to the point of helplessness and will be of no use to anyone we care about. When we practice self love, we can push through the limiting beliefs that the world has put on our shoulders and we can live life radiantly.

Self love is a daily practice. Some days are easier than others. Some days, we face challenges or hear lies about ourselves (both within our heads or through the opinions of others) and we let it consume us. The biggest thing to remember about self love is to NEVER beat ourselves up when we have off days. Shit happens. We must continue to talk to ourselves with pure kindness, embracing ourselves when we are down, and lifting ourselves back up, ready to try again.

Ready to start showing yourself some love? Take a deep breath in, give yourself a tight hug, and remind yourself: I AM WORTHY OF LOVE. Let’s get to it 🙂

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HERE ARE FIVE WAYS THAT I PRACTICE SELF LOVE AND WHY YOU SHOULD TOO:


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1. Eat like you care! Be honest about this one. How much time and consideration do you put into your food and eating habits? Are you eating because you are bored, upset, or hungry? Are you eating foods that are high in grease, fats, and sugars? Or are you filling your body with colorful, nutrient rich foods designed to fuel you up? Your body is craving for nourishment. One of the best ways you can express love for the body is by giving it the tools it needs for success. Listen to your body’s needs. Slow down and really enjoy the first 3 bites of every meal. Contemplate the texture, the taste, the richness of the different flavors. And give appreciation. If you can change anything about your eating habits, simply slow down and be grateful!

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2. Repeat affirmations DAILY. This is a big game changer for me and it sounded really stupid to me in the beginning too, don’t worry. I challenge you to make a habit of saying loving affirmations to yourself aloud at least once a day (preferably first thing in the morning). I also encourage you to say these things to yourself while looking into a mirror. Trust me, it is not as crazy as it sounds. There are many affirmation ideas all over the web. You can also purchase affirmation cards, books, signs, etc. You can change it up every day or you can pick one affirmation that truly speaks to you and use that same one daily. If you like the idea of consistency, try taping the affirmation to your bathroom mirror or you can make your own piece of pretty artwork to display and remind yourself (or you can order one from me).

Here are some super simple affirmations that really click with me:

  • I am worthy (of love, abundance, beauty, etc.)
  • I am enough
  • I am valuable
  • I am perfectly imperfect
  • I can accomplish anything I put my mind to
  • I love my body. It is strong, beautiful, and capable
  • I am grateful for the abundance in my life

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3. Enjoy stillness. It is important to take time for rest and quiet. I know we are all busy and we are filled to the brim with obligations and to-do lists, making it difficult to set aside time for ourselves. However, it is absolutely necessary to our self care. Make this a priority. Maybe wake up a little bit earlier, while the rest of the house is still asleep, or explain to your family that in order to do more for them, you need ten minutes for yourself and go lock yourself in a room. I can promise you, everyone can handle at least 10 minutes without your help. Of course, if you have toddlers home, you may find it a little more difficult to them to fend for themselves. However, you can make it a priority to take ten minutes for yourself when they are down for a nap before you start on a list of chores. This should be non-negotiable. Stillness can be anything that involves quiet and peace. You can spend some time in meditation (guided or silent) or relax into a steamy bath with luxurious bubbles or salts. It doesn’t make you are not moving at all, just peacefully. You can enjoy some creative work, tend to your garden, color, read a book. But it is time for you and only you!

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4. Enjoy movement. As important is it is to slow down and find stillness, it is just as vital to find energizing movement. Hopefully, something that you love! The gym may not be your thing, yoga may not be your thing, biking may not be your thing. However, there is some kind of movement that will excite you, you simply need to find it! Create a fun family workout routine, go for a jog, go play kickball at the park, go to a Zumba class or kickboxing class or crossfit class, go hiking, go dancing, do yoga. I don’t care what you do, but move! With movement, you will learn more about your body and everything it is capable of. Do not focus on its limitations, but find amazement in what you can do. If your movement gets you outdoors, even better! We all need a little more vitamin D in our life.

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5. Date yourself. This is my favorite act of self love and probably the one that sounds the silliest… I decided a long time ago that I am more than capable of doing things for myself and I should. I buy myself flowers, with no shame! I write myself love notes to put on my desk. I get dressed in my favorite clothes, put on some bitchin’ lipstick, and wear some yummy perfume; just for me! I tell myself, “Damn, you look good!” Selfies encouraged! I make it a habit to take myself out. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. I go to the movies, to dinner, to the park, on a solo day trip. Sometimes, I just stay in and do something I love. Dating yourself is about treating yourself with respect and having some fun along the way. I dare you: write down a list of things you LOVE to do, new things you want to try, or places you want to go. Now, pull out your planner and start scheduling your date nights. I aim for at least one per month. Put it on your planner with a pen or even a permanent marker. This is your “me time” and it is not selfish. It is essential.


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It doesn’t matter if you are single, dating, married, divorced, etc. Make it a priority to take time out to practice self care. Enjoy your own presence and become your own best friend. It does not make you crazy, it makes you better connected to your mind, your body, and your soul. Understanding who you are can help refresh all the relationships around you, learning how to step away from those which are not healthy and how to show sincere gratitude to the friends and family that nourish you.

I would love to hear what you think. Have you ever been on a self date? What did you do? How do you like to practice self care?

Happy Friday, y’all! Namaste 🙂

Taryn

My Word for 2016

“She made a promise to herself to hold her own well being sacred.” – Unknown

January is the season of goal setting, resolution, diet trends, and packed gyms. Great people with good intentions set out for a New Year, perhaps an opportunity to redefine themselves or their lifestyle, and make positive changes to their daily habits. It truly breaks my heart that resolutions have become a joke, as few people follow through with their goals after a couple weeks into the year. I, too, used to make giant lists of New Year resolutions until my mother introduced me to the practice of picking one word to focus on the for year, and that’s it. This gives a focal point to decisions I will be making throughout the year, how I choose to spend my free time and money, and gives directions to my short term goals throughout the year. You read that right, I still make other goals! Of course, with my career, two small businesses, and my own needs, I continue to make goals. I still take the time to strategize how to make more sales, how to increase my number of yoga students, how to pay off my credit card, etc. However, my word is my resolution. The word defines my year… those other goals simply support it.

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Last year, I selected the word Growth, which I reviewed at the beginning of the year. I always take the time to look back at the previous year, see the things that worked and didn’t work , clarify any unfinished business, etc. It’s my way of peacefully coming to terms with the ending of another year so I can graciously open doors for a completely new beginning. This is always exciting to me. Opportunities are limitless, so long as you continue to be open to change. That being said, I wanted a drastic shift from my experiences last year. I definitely grew, which is a journey I know will never end. However, I am all for slowing things down now.

The memories I have from 2015 of genuinely feeling happy, blissful, and naturally high were kind of limited to these few experiences where I was able to get away for a weekend, travel to family or friends, and trying new things. The rest of the year, I was busy chasing opportunities for growth (no complaints, btw).  This year, I am making more time for the people, experiences, and things that feed my soul. My word for 2016, naturally, is NOURISH.

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I don’t know if I will ever feel 100% satisfied, but I want to start catering to my hunger for connection, my thirst for adventure, my deep desire for passion and fire.  Really, my goal this year is to be guided by my heart, to stay in tune with it’s needs, and to take time for myself. I will eliminate the guilt that typically surrounds me when I’m spent too much time doing things for only my benefit, and more importantly, move away from that same guilt that haunts me on every adventure I take that I think may be costing too much. In reviewing 2015, I followed a prompt that asked me to review the things I felt like I wasted money on and to recognize the money spent on things that were absolutely worth it. Trips, work shops, festivals, moments with friends and family. All of these things were TOP of my list for what felt worth it. So, why would I deprive myself of that?
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I do not want to live the same day, every day, for the rest of my life. My soul craves way too much freedom and adventure for that. In 2016, I will be nourishing my soul, my mind, my body. I hope to be keeping you updated along the way… but I cannot make any promises. I am ready to be filled to the brim with nourishment and only chase after things that do not deplete me.

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Did you choose a word for the new year? Do you want more information on how to pick a word or how to sustain your word throughout the year. Thanks for my wonderful mama, I have some great resources for you:

  • Susannah Conway: She has great tools for help you choose your word of the year (for free)  and you can sign up for her email guidance
  • One Little Word by Ali Edwards: This was my first guide for choosing one word. If you are motivated by videos, photo journaling, and visual tools, this is where it’s at! You can purchase her kits for art journaling at home, take her classes on how to do it, etc.
  • Christine Kane: FREE discovering tool and all kinds of classes designed for self improvement.

One last thing before I go… I must share a book I have read recently that I think will be a big game changer with myself and my sisters. Miracle Mornings by Hal Elrod is a book that teaches you how to add more productivity, organization, direction, and energy to your life, all by wakings up a little earlier than normal. Sounds terrible? I promise, it is not so bad! Check out his site for some tools to help you get starts!

What’s your 2016 going to look like? I would love to hear from you in the comments below!

Namaste, Taryn xoxo

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2nd Saturday Market – 1/12/16

“The doctor of the future will no longer treat the human frame with drugs, but rather will cure and prevent disease with nutrition.” – Thomas Edison

Happy Tuesday friends!

Within the last couple of months, I have gotten involved with the City of Maricopa’s 2nd Saturday Market. Right from the beginning, I was very excited about this event because they were focusing on making healthy living accessible to everyone by bringing POW (Produce on Wheels) out to the community, offering free classes, and local businesses together for the cause. POW brings out rescued produce from farms who had overstocked and delivers the produce to communities that may not have access to inexpensive produce. In fact, they offer the residents of Maricopa 60 pounds of delicious fruits and veggies for only $10! I am not exaggerating. It is incredible! (Learn more about Produce on Wheels). I have gotten involved in this event by offering free yoga in the park at 9 am an12193550_720071014794462_4614228810550842255_nd my small business, Inspired by Sisters, sells natural body products and positive quote paintings. There are gluten free bakers, one of my favorite coffee shops (Bead & Berry), our local honey farmer, and so much more!

 

In addition to the yoga class and vendor booth, I have also offered to share some fun, unique, and healthy recipe ideas for the produce received at the market. Unfortunately, the market was cancelled this past Saturday due to a vehicle accident with the produce truck. On the bright side, the City of Maricopa has worked diligently to offer the missed market to its residents and has rescheduled the market to be hosted today! While I eat mostly vegetarian or vegan, I will share some additional recipes for you.

The following recipes are inspired by the produce received on January 12, 2016:

Oranges:

Of course, you can always eat an orange just as it is, but I love fresh orange juice! It is a great way to naturally introduce extra energy to your morning and it tastes amazing. You can hand squeeze your orange juice, use a citrus juicer, or a regular juicer. If you own a juicer, try adding some carrots to the juice. It tastes amazing and will add some beneficial nutrients.  If you aren’t into juice, here are some other awesome recipes:

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Watermelon:

Just like the oranges, watermelon is totally scrumptious on its own. However, if you are looking for something creative, check out a couple of these recipes. I am a huge fan of the first salad:

  1. Watermelon & Feta Salad by Cooks with Cocktails (vegetarian)
  2. Watermelon “steak” by the Ravenous Couple (vegetarian)
  3. Watermelon Margarita by Recipe Diaries (vegan and delicious)

Mexican Grey Squash

Grey squash is very similar to zucchini and can typically be used in any recipe designed for zucchini. Some of my favorite ways to eat these kinds of squash are in a raw pasta or lasagna, ratatouille, or stew. Check out some other ideas here:

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Butternut Squash

Butternut squash is one of the staple foods in my household. It stores well and there is so much you can do with it! Here are some of my favorite ways to eat it:

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Green Beans

Green beans are super yummy raw paired with some flavorful hummus or dip of your choice. However, there are tons of ways to eat green beans outside of the traditional Thanksgiving casserole:

Green Bell Peppers

Again, these are super yummy raw with some hummus or in nearly any salad, breakfast scramble, etc. Here are other ideas:

Green Chile Peppers

I LOVE green chile. In my household, we roast a bunch in advance, remove the skins, and freeze the chile to be used year round. I dice it up small to add to nearly any Mexican dish, add to burgers (ahem, veggie burgers), and most soups. I hope you fall in love with them too. Visit the Yummy Life for more info on storing Green Chile.

Tomatoes

When I get a bunch of extra tomatoes, my favorite thing to do is make a big batch of vegetable marina sauce and freeze it (see my blog post on freezer meals). I’m also kind of strange because I love eating tomatoes plain, maybe with a little sea salt. Here are some other awesome tomato recipes:

 

Well, there you have it! I hope you all enjoy your baskets and some of these recipes. I would LOVE to hear from you in the comments below. Which recipes did you try? What did you like or not like? What other recipes did you use with your baskets? I’m here to answer any questions you may have!

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@tarynraineyoga 2nd Saturday Market!

 

Live in Maricopa? Come out for free yoga next 2nd Saturday Market at 9 am and follow me on Facebook for updates on classes at Copper Sky, Maricopa Crossfit, and more!

Thanks everyone!

xoxo Taryn

2015: A Year of Growth

“Like wildflowers; you must allow yourself to grow in all the places people never thought you would.” – E.V.

Last year, my wonderful mother challenged me to pick a word for the New Year, rather than my usual endless list of to-dos and tedious goals. It was challenging to set my mind in one direction. What was I looking for in the new year? What changes did I want to make? What opportunities? What path did I want to lead myself down? A few things I knew for certain: I want to plant a garden, I want to learn more about myself, and I want to build my career and business. So, I chose the word GROWTH. And a year of growth it has been. (See my original post about Growth)

Let me start by letting you know I did not accomplish all of my goals or hopes and dreams for 2015. Some feel like they would get started, and fall, and I would continuously pick them back up again. Some lost interest in me, or I lost interest in it. Some things failed to be a priority. The biggest challenge of the year was my garden. I finally got the beds replanted, the seeds planted, and the irrigation in place. I rejoiced when little specks of green began emerging from the soil I so carefully placed. You can even check out my Instagram; I was overjoyed. Then, my 2-year-old lab experienced his own version of joy: digging in the fresh dirt and compost, thus ruining my beautiful new seedlings. I was crushed, but I continued on. My father-in-law and handy husband built me a fence and a gate to keep the dogs away from the side yard. I replanted my seeds, replaced my ruined irrigation lines, and was ready to watch my vegetables grow. However, in building this fence, we thought it was a perfect opportunity to allow the chickens more roaming throughout their side yard, out of the confines of their coop. It turns out; chickens also enjoy destroying my garden. At this time, it was too late to replant any seeds for 2015. I was crushed, momentarily. Rather than look back at my goals I didn’t meet last year and feel guilty about not accomplishing them, I am finding a new perspective. I have the opportunity now to see what on that list is truly important to me. What goals will I be sure to tackle in 2016? What goals or dreams lack the same drive they had last year? It’s a chance to refine my list, clear what is not working for me, polish those dreams that still hold a place in my heart, and move the f*** on.

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More importantly, it allowed me the chance to truly relish in all the things I did accomplish and all of the dreams I discovered throughout the year that I never would have dreamed to place on my visual board. I, indeed, grew.

BUSINESS & CAREER

I’m glad I enjoy being busy because if my business and career continue to develop at the same rate as 2015, I am in for quite a ride. I have been completely torn about my desk job for the last couple of years, working as an admin for a great community. It didn’t fulfill me or give me a reason to wake up in the morning or give me a since of belonging. It was a paycheck, mostly to pay back my college loans. However, this year an opportunity came up for me to keep my job working for a great company and move into a role I absolutely love. It is a job that excites me every morning, allows me the space to connect with others, and learn more about myself. It is one of those goals I had no idea meant so much to me until the opportunity presented itself and I jumped right in. I am loving it!

I am also pleased to say that both of my side jobs are growing too. I started teaching yoga in May this year and it is amazing. I am building a following, my students are transforming before my eyes, and I am even having to turn down yoga opportunities as demands are growing. It is phenomenal. Plus, my small business with Sierra, Inspired by Sisters is doing wonderfully. We are growing at a pace that is manageable, but challenging. We are finally bringing home some small paychecks, our reputation in our little town is growing, and we continue to have top rated reviews. I cannot be more grateful for the people who are supporting my dreams. I am seriously on a high right now just thinking about how far we have come.

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RELATIONSHIPS

I am connected with some phenomenal people this year. I am learning that there are so many different kinds of people, different kinds of friends, different kinds of relationships to be had. I am also learning that some people click with me better than others, and the crazy people-pleaser that is me has accepted that I do not need to keep all my friendships and it is not my responsibility to encourage relationships that do not seem to be healthy. I have met so many amazing people. I am incredibly thankful for connecting with a fellow YTT student, Jo, during our classes. He has introduced me to a different culture, full of acceptance and some of the warmest souls you will ever meet. Through him, I have met Vanessa, who is one of those friends you connect with right away and it feels like they have always been a part of you, even if you only met them 10 minutes ago. I love that they have got me out of my comfort zone, out into the world seeking adventure, but also turning inward and exploring within myself.

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I am also very grateful that my relationship with my husband continues to grow. It is always a challenge when two people come together, trying to merge two paths that do not intertwine very easily. It is a daily struggle to allow myself growth, allow my husband growth, and remember to come back together at the end of each day and grow together. We are starting to get the hang of it!

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PERSONALLY

I have a very strong belief that we should all be growing, changing, evolving all the time, throughout the entirety of our life time. I am pleased to say I witnessed a year of DAILY growth. I am serious. I found something new about myself constantly this past year. It really made me question whether I was growing at a more substantial rate than normal or if I was just so conscious about it that I noticed more than I normally would have. Maybe it is a combination of both. I learned to be kinder with myself. I learned that I cannot always get everything that I want to get done accomplished and that it is vital that I keep my perspective clear, rather than my to-do list. I have learned that I have a heart thirsty for adventure, eager to connect with new cultures, to engage with a vast variety of spirits. I have learned to be aware of my faults, not so I can mock them, but so I can eventually turn them into my strengths.

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I am more connected than I have ever been with myself. That is the best change I have experienced for all of 2015. I cannot even put the feeling into words.

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With that being said, I am very eager to see what the new year brings me. I am eager to share my word for the new year. I am eager to continue on the path with new friends, new dreams, new adventures. My goal is to share this with you something this week, but who knows where I will be guided…

Thank you all for helping me GROW in 2015.

Namaste, Taryn xoxo